You are the one to enlighten the future with your shining eyes and welcoming smile. You are the one to brighten our tomorrows with your wise ideas and enthusiasm to live.
I know there are people telling you that you are wrong. That you can’t succeed. And I know. They sometimes pull you down. Make you feel like you are doing the wrong thing. That you should give up, and perhaps never start again.
But my friend, remember. As Nelson Mandela once said, “It always seems impossible until it’s done.” And those who don’t have the courage to make it happen, will always make their best to keep you away from trying it.
So you better close your eyes, and pluck your ears. You better be bold and keep going. You will eventually see that you are much stronger than you think you are.
And don’t ever forget. Live has so much to offer, and so much to explore. All you got to do is not to be afraid of living fully.
I’ve changed a lot in the past year. I don’t know if it is good or bad, but I know that things aren’t the same anymore.
I grew up thinking that I wanted to be the best in everything. Graduating as the top of my class, I thought I wanted a career in business, politics or law. I was so ambitious that I fought for tooth and nail when I wanted something. I was loud and dominant, perhaps even annoying. I loved the attention, constantly craving the so-called “success” I achieved.
Now I want to be in ease within my self, to be self-satisfied by nature. I want to do what I enjoy doing, not what will bring me admiration from others. I want to hear that people are inspired by me, not jealous of. I want to explore love and build a family, rather than a demanding career.
I haven’t been the only one who noticed this change. Some say that I’ve lost my determination, my passion. They say I’ve lost my path, or don’t know what I want.
Gladly, this change also brought some realizations with it. I understood that true passion doesn’t mean going after things others want you to. It doesn’t mean being so ambitious that your eyes don’t see what really matters in life. Passion means doing things you love to do, being with people you care about. It means enjoying every moment you live fully.
“Pleasure is always derived from something outside you, whereas joy arises from within,” said Eckhart Tolle in his book The Power of Now. With this change, I now know that I definitely want joy in my life.
I never used to understand the value of listening. I only wanted to express my self, and poor I, only believed that expression can be done through talking.
Now I slowly understand. That silence can sometimes be the most powerful scream. That a look can mean a lot more than words. That silence has a meaning; that it has a comfort.
Believe me, no matter how wise he or she speaks, if one is not capable of keeping their mouth shut and accepting you as who you are, they won’t be able to help you after a certain point. Unfortunately nowadays, a true listener is found much rarer than a speaker.
And if somehow, you have found someone to listen to you, know that you are very lucky.
We unfortunately occasionally forget that years after today, we won’t remember days or hours, we will only remember moments. So even if that one word or one look will touch to our lives at some point, they are truly worthy of living. Life has so much to offer and so much to explore. All we have to do is to not be afraid living fully.
Lately I’ve been feeling too overwhelmed. Everything seems too much. The never ending work load, upcoming due dates, unpredictable relationships, static friendships, heated arguments, past mistakes, painful memories, high reach goals… Basically – life.
In the rush of the day, running from one occasion to another, I feel like I can’t even process what going on. Not being able to understand the events and their reflections on me, makes me feel desperate. Problems seem bigger than they actually are; feelings hurt more than they actually should.
Sometimes I can’t spare the time, and sometimes I avoid my thoughts and feelings purposely. I forget to ask myself basic questions that will in fact lead to the path of resolving my problems.
“What has happened? How did this make me feel? Why did I react this way? Am I okay now? And what am I planning to do?”
Although I don’t do this on a basis, deep down I know: returning to my cave is what I need the most. Talking to my self will work the best. Because problems seem more bearable when I analyse them; goals seem more achievable when I think on them.
It can be writing my feelings on a piece of paper while listening to a chill song, or even closing my eyes and letting the emotions fall. But what ever the method is, I know confronting myself gives meaning to my life.
I see that the thoughts and feelings that overwhelmed me a night before, start to feel okay. I slowly get a step closer to feel comfortable in my own skin.
I feel like I have the power to get things back together. Isn’t that all I need?
We are all survivors of our own islands, with out an exception. In the rush of the day, running from one crisis to another, we carry weights heavier than we imagine on our shoulders. We deal with an unbearable work load, working for school or the office, managing our relationships with others and taking care of our loved ones. In short, we do our utmost best to satisfy others. We only miss one point through this process: ourselves.
Even though we occasionally forget, it is certain that we are living for ourselves, not others. Our minds and souls need their own space. Solitude isn’t something to be afraid of if you are ready to listen to your inner self; it is something every human being needs in order to live a healthy life.
All of us need time. To think about the past, future, and most importantly the present… To analyze our behaviours and delve into our thoughts… To understand what we want, what we wish and what we need…
Even if it sounds unnecessary, one day you will feel that you lack meaning in your life; you will notice that you can’t satisfy others before satisfying yourself if you don’t take care of yourself. Because the confrontation of one with his or her self, is what gives meaning to life.
So create time for yourself. It is way easier than you think. Just close your eyes, and return to your cave before you sleep every night. Let your soul enlighten your mind and body. Listen to a soothing song, light a candle that you like, and feel the moment. You may either feel good – and that’s great – or you may feel bad – and that’s also okay. What matters is being aware of yourself and your feelings. There will be good days, and bad days, but as long as you are listening to your inner self, everything will be okay at the end of the day.
Just believe in yourself, because you are stronger than you imagine. You have the power to change your life in your hands. What else can you ask for?
Focus. One of the most important qualities one needs on the path that leads to success. The ability to concentrate on that one task you have and lose track of time while working on it, is what makes it perfect at the end of the day.
But no matter how determined we are, we all have our little distractions that sweep us away. Don’t we? Whether it is a beautiful butterfly we see, a meaningful song we hear, a smile of a child that captivates our attention or a little puppy crawling on the streets, it distracts us; we find ourselves in the state of trance.
Believe me, this is miraculous. This means you are passionate. This means you can enjoy the moment. And this means you know how to live fully.
Don’t forget, even if focus is what gives us success, little distractions from daily life is what gives us the power to keep being focused.